Liberate Yourself Through Free Talking

Let me make the case for talking to yourself. Hear me out.

Journaling is considered a socially acceptable form of processing thoughts, feelings, ideas, etc. Automatic writing is one of the most liberating tools available to acknowledge all that you are thinking and feeling. Whatever is in you comes out on the page. But with automatic writing sometimes you can only write as fast as your hand allows you to, and it can be hard not to let the mind get in the way of filtering, editing, rationalizing or blocking. Sometimes what comes out is still edited and restricted.

This is where free talking comes in. The act of talking to yourself, first of all, gives you permission to acknowledge and voice your thoughts and feelings without judgement or shame. Sometimes what we really think and feel we’d rather keep inside or quietly share on a page for it to never see the light of day. Sometimes what we really think or feel is incongruent with the life we’re currently living. But when you actually say what you really feel and think out loud…wow, what an act of power and rebellion.

The process of talking to yourself is just like with anything, you just start. Start with whatever comes to mind or whatever you’re feeling right now in the moment. Talk about what you think or feel right now. It’s not about the past or the future, it’s about the present. Allow yourself to let the words flow out.

In the present you have all the time and all the space to express yourself. There is no one around. You are only with yourself. And you can be that kind, patient and loving witness for yourself, free of the need of self-judgement or self-control. You have no time to think, just let whatever needs to come out come out. Continue to push deeper, peel back a layer, take it one step further. Further and further until you get to the seed of the thought. What is the truth in the seed that has taken root inside of you? What do you need to see or realize there? Giving voice to what’s inside has a way of revealing things you never thought were there.

Talking to yourself is an act of listening to and accepting yourself. Oftentimes people have a habit of pushing the truth so far down because sometimes the truth is hard to accept, or is “ugly”, or is scary, or is inconvenient… And oftentimes people have a habit of saying things they don’t actually think or feel is true. Or withhold what they actually think or feel is true. Whatever the reasons are, we need to know that words hold power. What we say matters. Our words create the reality we live in. If we use words to perpetuate lies, we just end up creating a greater and greater disconnect between what we are and who we actually are. We become the thing we fabricated in our mind. But if we start with just speaking our truths, even if it’s at home, it gets easier to cultivate our voice and re-discover who we really are beneath the layers.

When we give voice to what’s inside it brings forth our truth and power.