What We Can Learn From Relationships

Relationships are the energetic interactions we have with one other. They serve to help us learn.

What we call relationships are merely the varying energetic interactions we experience throughout life. Some may be one-off interactions, others are acquaintances, and some are ongoing connections. People or energies intersect our paths at different moments of our lives, for varying lengths of time, and different reasons. For a day, a season, or a lifetime, a relationship is simply an experience with another person or energy.

At lower levels of consciousness, relationships can be seen as a tool for survival. Aligning with others for resources, emotional dependency, or any reason that fulfills a basic survival need. In this state, this is where individuals are most likely to cling to relationships that may be unhealthy, outworn, or no longer aligned. A higher perspective and consciousness considers the experience of relationships and what they are here to teach us.

The relationships we attract over different cycles of our lives are constantly changing. Just like life, not all relationships are meant to stay the same. Not all relationships are meant to last forever. And not all relationips are meant to look exactly the same or come in the same form. Sometimes we cross paths with people who will help us in our journey. Sometimes these people serve to challenge us. To question us. To break us down. To teach us. To inspire us. To shift or expand our perspectives. To knock us in a different direction. People come into our lives, but it is never guaranteed that we are moving in the same direction. Like free moving electrons, we each are on our own path. Moving in our own direction. Sometimes we cross paths with other electrons. Sometimes we interact. Sometimes we mix. Sometimes we are changed. And we keep moving.

The experience of relationships serve to help expand our perspectives, challenge us, break us outside of our norms, to nudge each other, and ultimately, to learn and evolve. In the many interactions we will ever have with other people, how can we find cultivate greater focus and discernment, openness and cooperation, kindness and compassion? Acknowledging our mutual talents and imperfections? Finding acceptance in the full diversity and spectrum of humanity?

When we shift our perspective to the appreciation of human diversity and the experience and interaction of it, perhaps we can open more to the lessons and inspirations we can offer one another?

Mirrors

The people we attract can reflect the energy we hold within. The energy within can be genuine or it can be accumulated. As in the law of attraction, like attracts like. This is how people can serve as mirrors for one another. We attract ‘like’ energy to show each other a part of ourselves that need to be seen. It may be some aspect of our selves that perhaps we don’t immediately see or acknowledge. We might also attract people who share similar karma, traumas or lessons. People can also exhibit or trigger repressed parts of ourselves or aspects that need to be developed within. Perhaps the qualities we might find bothersome in another person reflects a shadow we have inside. Or perhaps the qualities we find admirable or desirable in another are really qualities we’re meant to cultivate within.

Helpful People

Sometimes life can send us people out of nowhere. These are the people we meet randomly in our daily lives or in our travels. They come into our lives for a brief moment but yet it can feel like we’re drawn to the person for some unknown reason. They could be strangers that want to help us for no reason other than they feel they need to. Or even people who feel very familiar and comfortable to be around. These are what I call divine pairings or interventions. In the moment, the Universe will send you help or guidance in the form of another person. In my travels there were times I was sent helpful people. When I got into my motorbike accident, I was immediately received by 2 helpful people and a kitten. When I was recovering from my accident in Mexico, the Universe sent me help from many strangers willing to offer support and help. And when I was on the road, I met many people open to sharing ideas and conversations that helped plant seeds or encourage me in my journey ahead.

Soul Connections

Soul connections are existing energetic bonds between two souls. Also known as soulmates or karmic relationships. They represent the souls we have already met before from previous lives. It is why it may feel there is an instant attraction or connection. It can feel like you already know each other. As if you can see the soul beyond the person. You see them for who they really are. And it may feel incredibly familiar and comfortable, as if you’ve known each other in lifetimes past. There may already be an unspoken understanding between you two, in a very short period of time. Oftentimes our romantic or closest relationships can be the most karmic. And perhaps they can also be the most challenging as well. These are the connections in which we share similar karmic lessons we can learn through each other. Sometimes we get paired up with another to help each other in the process, or sometimes to trigger us and force us to change. It can be for a short or long leg of the journey depending on what is necessary.

Chosen Connections

The relationships we choose to cultivate and maintain throughout our lives are the ones in which we accept responsibility for. The ones where we create mutual agreements to align and exchange energy with each other. At lower levels of consciousness they can be seen as tools for survival, but at higher levels of consciousness they can be seen as alliances. Higher chosen connections are not founded on unmet needs—needing something from the other person. A higher chosen connection is an intentional choice—not out of circumstance or need—but the choice to align according to shared values and missions. Higher chosen connections ask us to bring our consciousness and presence to a relationship. Two souls that see and accept each other without condition or illusions. Alligned by a shared mission and shared goals. A similar path, but not necessarily the same. A agreement to support each other, show up for each other, and believe in and invest in each other because it feels mutually beneficial. Both parties are willing to invest the energy and time to cultivate themselves and nurture the relationship to ensure it grows and thrives. Able to fly together while achieving individual dreams.

Self

The relationships we maintain with people are a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves. The most important relationship we can ever have in our life is the one we have with #1. Cultivating a healthy, strong, loving, patient and kind relationship with your self that consistently respects your intuition, your voice, your needs, your boundaries, your self-nurturing is absolutely foundational. When we operate from a healthy place of inner strength and self-generated power, we thrive. And when we thrive, we can attract relationships that help each other thrive together.